Touch…is it important?
Touch…. It’s a part of, or should be a part of everyday life. I think for those of us that have chosen Esthetics, Massage, Hair or Nails we are fortunate because we are touching people all day on most days. So, maybe, we take it for granted…. But for the average person, is there enough or any touch in their life? And how important is it?
They say we live in a touch-phobic society where we seldom touch those we know and rarely touch strangers. Why is that? Have we become so isolated and entertained by all that the world has to offer us technology-wise that we think we don’t need touch?
Science has proven that touch is not only nice, but it is necessary. We are to have 4 HUGS to survive, 8 to thrive and we need 12 if we are in a crisis of some sort.
I stopped by one of my hospital locations this morning and ran into one of the top Management people. We talked, caught up on some things and at the end of our conversation I decided she needed a hug…. As I started towards her she backed up, so I told her what I was going to do and why. She then “let” me hug her, even asked for one more when I left so “she could get a head start on her (now important) hugs for the day”.
I wasn’t always a hugger, that came later in my life. When I was growing up my family was not the “touchy/hugging” type. We would hug each other good night and the siblings were “made” to hug and apologize to each other after a fight or an argument, but not a lot of touch other than that.
When I met my now husband I learned that there were other types of families; different than what I grew up with. The first time I was introduced to his mother she grabbed me, planted a kiss right on my lips and gave me a big “bear hug”! I did not know what was happening or even what to do with it. I should have expected that since my husband was quite touchy and affectionate. And, although it was strange in the beginning, it “grew on me”.
After we married and started our family I realized that I had a lot of handholding, hugging and touch in my life. I was blessed and it was great, but then I forgot for a time, that everyone did not have what I had. A certain instance at a spa really made me realize the importance of touch. After a massage as I was getting dressed another spa client was standing next to me in the mirror. She made a simple comment: “Don’t you just love this”? Why, yes, I explained to her that spa treatments were one of my favorite things ever and that my family often gifted me spa visits for birthdays, anniversaries, etc. She said, “NO, don’t you just love being touched”? Now, that question really made me stop and think….. What??? Touch??? I had three little kids and a husband so I had plenty of touch everyday, and I didn’t realize that people would visit a spa (and pay $$) JUST to be touched. She explained that she was single and that she had no one in her life to touch her, that she gladly came to the spa and paid hard earned money just for the touch. And she looked forward to it! Think about that for a minute……..
Do we know why someone comes to see us? What if they, like this lady only came for the touch, care and special attention that she was missing and needed in her life? What if we then were in a hurry and we were thinking of other things like: “what a day” and “thank goodness its almost over”, “wonder what’s for dinner”? Would that be fair?
Please re-adjust your thinking before you head into your day; realize that the gifts and talents that you have been given are to be shared mindfully without holding back with every client. We don’t know their needs; we don’t know their “back stories”.
Give each and every client respect, time, touch and care – you might be the only touch they get……..